It Feels Like Goodbye

I deleted my Instagram. Well lets not get carried away. I deleted my Instagram App on my phone.

Have you ever seen a post and had strong feelings about it? Then continued to read other peoples comments on it and get even more heated? I’ve read both posts and responses and felt myself getting angry and wanting to reply with my own thoughts and opinions. Then before I hit send I got slapped with a reality check. These people are nobody’s.

I’m sure they are someone special to the people in their lives but they have no significance in my life what so ever. Want proof? I deleted the app and now they no longer exist to me at all. In a few selections on my phone I made them vanish from my life and you know what? It felt good.

There was a post the other day on Instagram from the Food Network where a mom made homemade pasta with her kids. It was adorable. I read the comments and people were BASHING her for the way she did it. Using a certain kind of flour and that she used eggs when she shouldn’t. Are you kidding me people? What is wrong with us that we feel we need to leave mean comments everywhere? You don’t like the way she did it? DON’T DO IT THAT WAY. But guess what? No one else cares!

I understand commenting on some stuff but can’t we just keep it positive? so you don’t like the way a mom does something, it is possible to think your thought and move on with your day. You don’t have to post it. Shocking I know.

Why are we so worried about what every one else is doing? Isn’t it exhausting? Isn’t being a woman, mom, friend, wife, even just being a human enough? Why are we making it more difficult?

Why are we trying to one up each other? Why are we trying to prove we are the best mom? Or cook? Or athlete?

We should be trying to prove that we are kind. That we care about people as humans. I want to raise Rylan to love everyone. I want her to be kind to everyone. Even those that aren’t kind to her. Chances are those are the ones who need a hug the most. She doesn’t have to hug everyone because lets be real… day care germs. But I’d like the sentiment to be there.

So yes I deleted Instagram. I want to live this summer like a kid from the 80’s. I want to spend my time at the lake and the pool and hiking around the most beautiful places in California (I say California cause I live there and while I want to travel, I’m realistic about hiking and traveling with at 4 year old. I’m not crazy). We live an hour from Yosemite. I should be there every day off. I want to do all these things with out worrying about an Instagram photo or stopping to see who liked it.

Rylan and I are doing things this summer that we want to do.  Things that make us happy not add more stress to our lives. I’m not going to put us in situations that cause us stress anymore.

This also means I’m deleting this website. Its a great outlet for me and I’ve enjoyed putting my thoughts online but I have a journal at home that basically gets the same number of views. *laughing out loud!* not a pity party at all! I have not invested a ton of time or energy into this so I haven’t expected to be making money from it. It started out as fun and its ending on a good note.

Best wishes to everyone! I hope you enjoy your summer as much as we plan to!

Oh and remember if you can’t say anything nice, take a look in the mirror and figure out why you’re being negative. The only thing you can change is your attitude not someone else’s opinion.

 

 

Capsule Wardrobe CHAOS


I’m a typical girl. I like clothes. I liked clothes better when I was a size 2, but that’s besides the point. I still love clothes but at my current size I like black, slimming clothes that look good over spanx.

When I was in high school that was my favorite thing to do with my mom.  Not just because she paid. Although now that I’m on a budget its a major bonus when mom offers to take me shopping.

My grandma is a clothes whore too. We’ve established that’s where we get it. Nana buys a new outfit for every event no matter how small and its carried on with my mom, me, and now with my daughter. Nana buys Rylan a new outfit for everything and its wonderful.

I still love clothes and for a long time I’ve struggled with wanting to look cute and refusing to buy larger clothes. I’m still working on myself, but for the time being I’ve decided to try out a capsule wardrobe.

I love the idea of knowing everything in my closet looks good together and looks good on me. It also fits in perfect with my new quest for minimalism. So let the journey begin!

Here’s the thing I’m running into. I don’t know where to start. I can pin capsule wardrobe pins all day long but unless one of them is going to send me the whole wardrobe for free I’m stuck with just looking at the pins for ideas.

I look at my closet and am so overwhelmed. I have clothes everywhere and I don’t know what fits and what doesn’t and why nothing matches. Which means I just wear the same thing over and over again. By the same thing… I mean workout clothes. While I do try to work out as often as possible wearing workout clothes daily is for sure false advertising.

So I’ve decided to start small. Currently I’m going through everything I own. I’ve thrown out everything I know doesn’t fit, (like the size 23 inch waist jeans, are you freaking kidding me?! I didn’t fit in those before I had Rylan!) and am wearing pieces one by one and putting them in a separate section of my closet.

My thought process is I want versatile things I know fit and look good on me. Those pieces stay. Anything else gets send to Thred Up or thrown away.

I’m choosing to wear it for a full day before deciding if it gets to stay because you just never know. I look at pieces in my closet and think “yes I’ll wear that it looks good” then I wear it and halfway through the day remember that it rides up and I hate it, or that it’s not comfortable when I’m holding Rylan or chasing her around. Or the worst, when it looks good at home but then I catch a glimpse of myself in a mirror or store window and thing “holy crap, that’s the definition of a mom outfit” before realizing its ME.  Those get tossed out. Immediately.

From there once I have my base I’ll start purchasing good quality things I know will fit and will make multiple outfits. I’m really looking forward to being able to put any outfit in my closet together and know it till fit and look good.

While on a budget I’ll be crazy selective in what I purchase. But I’ve also decided that once I get the basics down I’ll restart doing stitch fix occasionally. I loved doing it before but have stopped because I cancelled ALL subscriptions while we are getting out of debt.

But a girl needs clothes! So this is an added journey to go along with the minimalism quest. Wish me luck!