FOOD!!!!!

9:30am *bing* a text from Pat: What do you want for dinner?

Me: I don’t care what sounds good?

Pat: I don’t care you choose I chose last night.

Me: 1) no you didn’t 2) I’m already exhausted and don’t care

This is every single week day of our lives. Welcome to marriage I’m told.

So I’m on a mission to find what works for us. What will prevent that text message every morning from coming in? Or what will change it to a thinking of you text or an I love you message? I’m guessing changing dinner won’t do that but hey a girl can try.

First we tried Hello Fresh. It was good. Super easy to use I really enjoyed the first week. I let Pat pick what we were getting because he’s pickier than Rylan our 3 year old. Well close anyway. He liked it to but was not sold on spending the money. I feel it was a good deal and we spent less money on food that would go bad later.

Second we tried Sun Basket. I said we didn’t I? I meant I. My mom and I tried one of the meals and I did one on my own. I know my husband. That’s a solid no on SunBasket for him. To me it seemed healthier than Hello Fresh. The options are all healthier. I did choose gluten-free so I’m not sure if there’s a normal people diet on there or not that Pat might like better but I don’t care enough to check. Cancel that one too.

I haven’t tried any other subscription mail delivery ones. The next adventure now that we will be home for a while is PrepDish.

Here’s what Prep Dish is. Its meal planning and prep for the lazy girl (that’s me). They give you 4 dinners, a side, breakfast, and a snack and desert. They give the meal plan, the grocery list, a day of prep for the meals for the week and the menu. Everything my friend Shelley and other fitness people do all on their own. Like adults.

I apparently need someone to do it for me.

Pat does most of the cooking in our house. I know score right?! So while I put a lot stress on the situation it really isn’t that bad. Also he’s super easy-going so I’m being dramatic on the whole thing. But it would be nice to have control on this weight loss journey of mine. I don’t think I’ve talked seriously about it but I’m trying to get my weight down.  So on top a meal service having to be husband and toddler friendly it has to be mommy weight-loss friendly. I’m losing sight of the point to this post.

I got two free weeks of Prep Dish so we will see how this goes. I’m going to give it a try. I like it because I want to grocery shop and have the prep I just don’t want to plan. This way we have the planning and Pat and I can make adjustments so we will all be happy. I have extremely high hopes for this. If this doesn’t work I’m going to have to call in Shelley do help me and just pay her to even grocery shop for me.

Back up plan number 8… move in with Shelley and pay her rent.

If anyone has any other suggestions that’s not a meal delivery service I’m open to trying it.

Struggling Pluviophile

Okay I live in a beautiful area in California. We get all the seasons!

Normally.

Right now while the east coast is getting slammed with snow and weather, here in the California mountains we are getting… well tan.

Not the good tan that most people like. Not the full body tan you get from a swimsuit and fun day at the pool or beach. Nope this is just a face tan. Because while its cold as a mother.. it’s also sunny out. Or sometimes not even all that cold! Its like spring here already. In January. I’m going to cry.

I remember missing school because it used to snow and we could go sledding down the hill behind my house. Or even missing school in high school because it rained so much the little creek that ran through campus overflowed.

I’m not missing any work because of weather and it’s not okay.

I love the rain so much and feel so deprived of real weather. Not the natural disaster weather I just want some rain. I want it to rain longer than 12 hours please.

Think about this summer people… if we have a crappy winter your lakes are not going to be that great either! Remember the drought?!?! That was horrible. I know there are bigger problems that just lakes in a drought but for the sake of a mom blog lets jus focus on how this effects me. Of course I prefer winter and rain to the summer but I have to say better lakes makes for a better summer.

Not just because I’m the wife of a superintended at a golf course either. Although that adds to the worrying of the weather. It’s also another mark on the pro list my husband is making to buy our own golf course.

Not happening.

As good as it sounds to own your own course and operate it, I like the stability that comes with working for someone else. Oh wait there’s no stability in the golf course business. My bad.

I grew up with my family owning business so I know it’s not a cake walk. Its more like musical chairs. And all the chairs are on fire. And there’s only one hose and its a drought!

That’s extremely dramatic. It was wonderful having our own business but its a lot more work than anyone who hasn’t done it realizes. So that’s why I’m hesitant to buy a golf course. Oh and who just buys a golf course? Maybe one day but certainly not till we get some weather. Or until it starts raining money.

So if everyone could say a prayer and do a dance for me I’d really appreciate it. Not just for the golf courses but for me. A person who just wants some rain, a book, a cocktail, and her 3-year-old to cuddle with her and relax.

104 Degree Panic Attack

“Where the thermometer? I think she has a fever!” I yell to Pat as I’m changing Rylans diaper.

“She doesn’t have a fever we just checked it an hour ago” Pat rolls his eyes as he hands me the thermometer.

I love that he can roll his eyes while doing what I want. No matter how ridiculous he always humors me.

That was a little less than 3 years ago. Every new mother has a thing. For me her thing was her temperature. I can feel the judgment from here, yes I’m sure I had more than one thing but at this point the fever was my biggest obsession.

I took her temp constantly and was always worried about her having a fever. She ran super hot all the time. Mainly at night and that hasn’t gone away. I’ve just learned that if I have to question if there’s a fever or not… there’s not.

Which brings me to this past 2 weeks ago. She woke up crying and when I picked her up there was no doubt she had a fever. We snuggled on the couch and she was so warm I considered turning on the AC.

I took her temp and as expected it was 102. It ranged from 100 to 104 for the next two days. I know I should have taken her to the ER right away but I work in a medical office I know how this goes. It’s a virus and there’s nothing they can do but alternate Tylenol and Motrin and keep her cool and do baths…yadda yadda yadda. So that’s what we did.

Come Thursday morning her temp had started to go down on its own but we made an apt for her anyway. Turns out it was a double ear infection! One of which had possibly ruptured! Awesome job mom.

Nothing makes you feel like a worse mother than NOT taking her to the doctor, only to find out she has a ruptured ear drum. I will no longer question whether or not to take her in. If I’m thinking about I’m doing it. Bring on the hypochondriac comments I’ll take the punch.

My 3 year old sassy pants did not even complain this whole time. The same kid who threw herself on the ground and screamed because I tried to put the wrong pants on her never once mentioned that her ears hurt. That’s the only thing saving me from really believing I’m a terrible mom.

Not even a week after this happened she’s feeling better and wanting to read stories before bed time again. We were reading the book “The Sleep Fairy”. To whoever bought that book for me I think you owe me money for it. Who busy a book as a present that makes the parents buy their children presents every night they sleep in their bed by themselves? We are on a budget! I’d rather her sleep in bed with me!

Luckily for me my kid is a little weird and after listening to the whole story cuddled in to me very concerned. She put the book down and said “mama, if the sleep fairy tries to come in my room and put something under my pillow while I’m sleeping….I’m going to scream.”

I’ve never been more proud! Glad she’s feeling better and back to being feisty. Next time we are going to the doctor. Then I’ll buy her a present!

Minimalism and Budgeting

Minimalism and budgeting.

Wow never in  a million years would I have thought those would be my two favorite words! It seems they go hand in hand right? If you don’t have a lot of stuff that means you aren’t buying crap and wasting money!

At least that’s how it will be. I feel like I’m spending money in order to have organization for less stuff! Yup leave it to me to make simple things a royal pain in the ass!

So, my journey to minimal living is going well… we got the new kitchen table with the storage underneath and everything is organized in the kitchen and fridge. Yay me! I ALMOST feel like I have the whole kitchen done. Now its just the daily chore of keeping the counters clean and sink empty. I feel like it should be easier when there’s only 3 of us but whatever.

Working on our bedroom next. Our living room is fairly small and empty so I feel like that just needs to be kept clean. Easier said than done right? Isn’t that the worlds mantra? Anyway back on track. Bedroom is coming along. We no longer have crap accumulated at the end of the bed and our shoes are organized in the stand which means we aren’t tripping over them and I’m not throwing them.

Yes I’m a shoe thrower! Especially when I tripped over one that wasn’t supposed to be there in the first place. Hence the journey we are on.

Our other big adventure is budgeting!!! *happy dance* Seriously I never knew how happy having a budget could make me!

I have my friend Sarah to thank for this new obsession. She turned me to Dave Ramsey ! For those of you who don’t know him its worth looking at. For me I love that there are baby steps! Anything with baby steps is right up my alley! I’m all about it.

His first baby step is to save $1,000 emergency fund. Then start paying off all debt. Why you ask? Because if you don’t have payments guess what you have?!?! MONEY!!!

Mind Blown!

There’s more to it than that and he has a whole debt snowball thing going so I would check out his website and the whole process. I listen to his podcast and am obsessed. The debt free scream is now on the bucket list!

We started with a budget. Seems simple right?!?! But we weren’t doing it before! Totally insanity.  Now I’m a bit retarded so I can not do a whole monthly budget. My husband and I get paid on alternate weeks so we have a paycheck coming in every week. That’s how I do it. I budget down to every dollar for each week looking at what bills we have to pay that week and looking ahead to see whats coming.

Yes yes yes I know that makes up my monthly budget. Still can’t just write down the monthly one! It’s a mental block I have. But doing it by the week for the month works for me and guess what? I don’t even care. If it’s not broke, don’t worry about it!

Its taken a few months to get everything down and we still have months where we back slide. It happens, its called life. That being said I have never felt more in control of our money and most importantly our future.

After being on a budget when we do back slide its soooo much easier to get back on track. It’s no longer the end of the world and full-blown panic mode.

Adulting sucks. There’s no point in sugar-coating it.

Paying bills, keeping a clean house, getting a hostess gift, it’s all just exhausting and quite frankly way too much to think about. So much like trying to like the summer time, this is me, trying to enjoy being an adult! Finding ways to make cleaning fun like listening to my podcast while I do dishes. Watching the housewives while folding laundry.

I’m interested… what makes cleaning house more exciting for you people? How do you get through it?